I am including this blog because it is one that hits home, and it explains a personal dilemma that I have struggled with for years. My wife, the spewer of warm and fuzzies, and I, the cold and prickly one, have been in many discussions where we debate the watering down of the awards system.
For the past few seasons my daughter has been given a trophy for participating in soccer, and my son won a trophy or a medal in every wrestling tournament that he participated in last year. Let me start by saying that this is an issue that I can truly see both sides of the debate. On one hand my kids are excited, which any dad would love, and they are probably more likely to enjoy the activity. This can be a tremendous program builder. My son who WILL BE A BASKETBALL PLAYER thinks he is the next Randy Lewis or Lincoln Mcilravy.
I always question whether or not we are teaching them anything. If you receive a prize for doing, why go above and beyond? If you'll get a trophy whether you simply play or if I win the state tournament. Why spend all those hours in the gym?
In my life I have been fortunate enough to have been on teams that won or placed high in major tournaments, and was awarded trophies for those accomplishments. To this day I not only have them trophies, but I could give you play by play descriptions of each of those championship games. Will Dylan or Ty remember anything about their trophies or will they even have their trophies in 5 years? Are they going to want to work harder to be better at what they do?
Another example of warm fuzzy excessiveness is when I was coaching 7th grade boys basketball, at South Middle School, in Rapid City. First off everyone made the team, we had three teams. When I was in JH I was cut from the 8th and 9th grade teams. We had 50 kids trying out for one 12 member team, and I grew so fast I didn't know where my feet where. I wanted to play so I worked at it. Failure was not an option. Enough reminiscing, sorry to get all up hill in the snow both ways on you. To further add to the modern touchy feely insanity I had to make sure that all 15 boys on my team had at least one quarter of playing time, and trust me their were moms counting minutes. I ended up worrying more about getting everyone in than what plays or offenses to call. Once again I ask where is the motivation to get better?
Is it safe to fail or not get a trophy? I hope so, because in the "Real World" there aren't warm fuzzies for participating. Unless your a teacher where everyone gets paid the same regardless of how hard they work.